Stubbornness Vs. Determination

As an inventor, Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When asked how he felt about failing a thousand times, Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times, but the light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.” Do you believe Edison was stubborn or determined?

Thomas Edison was determined. Because he attempted a thousand different ways in order to invent the light bulb instead of trying the same method and giving up in the middle of the process.

It sounds obvious but how many of us have insisted in a mistake or wasted time (and money) trying to achieve something and neglecting to try alternative forms? Perhaps no one has ever called us “stubborn”, but deep down we don’t really need someone to tell us that, do we?
Stubbornness may sound very bad to our ears because we tend to have prejudice towards this word and immediately associate it with someone who is very conservative, old school, unpleasant or even narrow-minded. 

Truth is, anyone at some point in their lives might have encountered a situation in which they were resistant and stubborn and there is nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn’t cause you deep sadness, great disappointment, permanent giving up or fear of failure.

Then what is the solution to our daily problems? Determination.
A determined person has a target and will do anything and everything to reach it. However, please note that the objective must be clear as water, or all the work involved will be disposable. Besides having a defined objective, it takes discipline and organization to follow the strategies towards any goal. That is why determination is key to getting anywhere, moreover, if one is not aware of the importance of reaching the target, it will be very easy to get distracted and give up in between.

On the other hand, a stubborn person with a clear goal would only be successful by chance, or if he/she is luckily a genius. I affirm this because again, how can one reach a goal by trying the same method repeatedly, but failing to realize that some adjustments are necessary. I would risk to add that a stubborn person is also lazy and proud. Lazy because is too comfortable in a situation and ignores the need to change or learn a skill, and proud because lacks humility to recognize something is wrong or ask for help.

There is nothing wrong with taking longer than expected to achieve a goal, as long as one is trying different alternatives and learning during the process. There is no such thing as “failure” when you are having fun doing it. You will eventually get somewhere, even if it’s not your original destination.

Happy weekend!

Weight Loss is a Mean, Not a Goal

weight-loss-700x495It has been a while since my last post, but I have been developing personal and professional skills, and some of those include incorporating healthy habits into my routine. The concept of “healthy” may vary according to different cultures, costumes, ideology, etc; but what I am going to discuss here is far from imposing a “right” way of conducting a healthy lifestyle.

In my opinion, being healthy is a combination of mental and physical health, and it is no secret that well-being is a result of a balanced life. I believe many of you have already heard that what we eat reflects on how we feel and look, but I would go further and affirm that the formula must add positive feelings and conscience. Actually, conscience and discipline, because without those there is no purpose that validates the result.

For instance, let’s take someone who is desperate to lose weight in order to fit an old pair of jeans and goes straight for a nip and tuck. This person wants a quick solution and is not interested in going through a conscious diet or nutrition education. Since it is common to mix up goal with strategy, one must always think over the actual reason and importance of losing weight. Also, it is very likely that the purpose of losing weight it not very clear, and the person should think further on why he/she wants to fit an old pair of jeans. Would it be to look younger? Would it be to feel more attractive? Why does the person want to look younger? Why does he/she want to feel more attractive?

That being said, instead of believing that the weight loss is the goal, one must comprehend that a few pounds less is a mean to achieve something else, such as confidence, being healthier, preparing for maternity, etc. In another words: reasons that seek long-term results.

For me, a healthier lifestyle includes eating more natural foods, avoiding sugar, cooking, working out regularly, spending time with friends, studying, keeping organized, spending quality time with family, and dedicating time for other hobbies. However, those are my personal combination of habits that make me happy, and it took me a few years to understand my body and mind in order create my package of “healthy habits”. Every person must understand and respect their own limits before trying to reproduce someone else’s life recipe. Getting inspiration from others is helpful and generates motivation, as long as one adapts it to his/her reality.

I hope you feel inspired to think about your own healthy habits and do not push yourself too hard if you don’t believe it will bring you satisfaction and happiness. Respect your body and mind and make decisions based on your long-term goal. First remember WHY you want something and only after figuring that out, think on HOW to get it.